Ambiguously Blind
I don’t always look blind. And that can be the hardest part.
After meningitis, I lost most of my sight. One eye is completely blind. The other works just enough to make things complicated.
I miss facial expressions. I miss subtle cues. I walk right past people I know and don’t realize it until it’s too late.
Sometimes people think I’m ignoring them.
Sometimes I think I’m doing just fine.
Both can be true at the same time.
I’ve learned to listen more closely.
To ask better questions.
To adapt in ways most people never have to think about.
It’s a strange space to live in.
Not fully seen. Not always understood.
But still moving forward.
A lot of that journey made its way into my book, Destiny Is Debatable.
Host, Author & Storyteller
John B. Grimes is an author, podcast host, storyteller, and meningitis survivor whose work explores what happens after life refuses to follow the plan.
At nineteen, John survived bacterial meningitis after spending eight days in a coma. He woke to profound vision loss, neurological complications, and a future that looked nothing like the one he had imagined. Rebuilding that life—often imperfectly, occasionally absurdly, and one decision at a time—became the story behind his memoir, Destiny Is Debatable: A Memoir of Meningitis, Losing Sight, and the Love I Didn't See Coming.
John is also the host of the Destiny Is Debatable podcast, where conversations about resilience, disability, purpose, family, creativity, and the unexpected turns of life challenge the idea that our circumstances get the final say.
His experience with meningitis eventually led him deeper into advocacy. John is a co-founder and Executive Director of Shots 4 Meningitis, a national nonprofit raising awareness, sharing survivor and family stories, supporting those affected by meningitis, and creating opportunities for communities to take action.
Across his writing, podcasting, advocacy, and speaking, one idea continues to shape John's work: survival is not the end of the journey—it is just the beginning.
Destiny may be debatable. What we do next isn't.
It's Time
